diff --git a/go/go.mod b/go/go.mod
index 6e78a6c3ac..c002f226c5 100644
--- a/go/go.mod
+++ b/go/go.mod
@@ -59,7 +59,7 @@ require (
 	github.com/cespare/xxhash v1.1.0
 	github.com/creasty/defaults v1.6.0
 	github.com/dolthub/flatbuffers/v23 v23.3.3-dh.2
-	github.com/dolthub/go-mysql-server v0.17.1-0.20231105071709-422c3fee20f6
+	github.com/dolthub/go-mysql-server v0.17.1-0.20231107171708-b0d61a50e286
 	github.com/dolthub/swiss v0.1.0
 	github.com/goccy/go-json v0.10.2
 	github.com/google/shlex v0.0.0-20191202100458-e7afc7fbc510
diff --git a/go/go.sum b/go/go.sum
index e4cad6f057..1a490d371f 100644
--- a/go/go.sum
+++ b/go/go.sum
@@ -181,8 +181,10 @@ github.com/dolthub/fslock v0.0.3 h1:iLMpUIvJKMKm92+N1fmHVdxJP5NdyDK5bK7z7Ba2s2U=
 github.com/dolthub/fslock v0.0.3/go.mod h1:QWql+P17oAAMLnL4HGB5tiovtDuAjdDTPbuqx7bYfa0=
 github.com/dolthub/go-icu-regex v0.0.0-20230524105445-af7e7991c97e h1:kPsT4a47cw1+y/N5SSCkma7FhAPw7KeGmD6c9PBZW9Y=
 github.com/dolthub/go-icu-regex v0.0.0-20230524105445-af7e7991c97e/go.mod h1:KPUcpx070QOfJK1gNe0zx4pA5sicIK1GMikIGLKC168=
-github.com/dolthub/go-mysql-server v0.17.1-0.20231105071709-422c3fee20f6 h1:gWdydyqAiA0U51NUfdRGYeUiHkRM/OWM0KmNjUF3Wvk=
-github.com/dolthub/go-mysql-server v0.17.1-0.20231105071709-422c3fee20f6/go.mod h1:YKNZpEARxfNl5LUyIZ8oHEoMDM7DzjnPlhl9cj89QBg=
+github.com/dolthub/go-mysql-server v0.17.1-0.20231102000456-6985ecd1f59f h1:klP1BLlTLwnFSRAPEa3oQRwuEjnpqedWa1KdGDjmT2E=
+github.com/dolthub/go-mysql-server v0.17.1-0.20231102000456-6985ecd1f59f/go.mod h1:YKNZpEARxfNl5LUyIZ8oHEoMDM7DzjnPlhl9cj89QBg=
+github.com/dolthub/go-mysql-server v0.17.1-0.20231107171708-b0d61a50e286 h1:p8sxDMAgUlzKPJdO6O4PlMPtTShAAcEAeNgRrCgFOaQ=
+github.com/dolthub/go-mysql-server v0.17.1-0.20231107171708-b0d61a50e286/go.mod h1:YKNZpEARxfNl5LUyIZ8oHEoMDM7DzjnPlhl9cj89QBg=
 github.com/dolthub/ishell v0.0.0-20221214210346-d7db0b066488 h1:0HHu0GWJH0N6a6keStrHhUAK5/o9LVfkh44pvsV4514=
 github.com/dolthub/ishell v0.0.0-20221214210346-d7db0b066488/go.mod h1:ehexgi1mPxRTk0Mok/pADALuHbvATulTh6gzr7NzZto=
 github.com/dolthub/jsonpath v0.0.2-0.20230525180605-8dc13778fd72 h1:NfWmngMi1CYUWU4Ix8wM+USEhjc+mhPlT9JUR/anvbQ=
diff --git a/go/libraries/doltcore/sqle/writer/prolly_fk_indexer.go b/go/libraries/doltcore/sqle/writer/prolly_fk_indexer.go
index fbef8e6a5d..e1bd724129 100644
--- a/go/libraries/doltcore/sqle/writer/prolly_fk_indexer.go
+++ b/go/libraries/doltcore/sqle/writer/prolly_fk_indexer.go
@@ -26,13 +26,15 @@ import (
 )
 
 type prollyFkIndexer struct {
-	writer *prollyTableWriter
-	index  index.DoltIndex
-	pRange prolly.Range
+	writer   *prollyTableWriter
+	index    index.DoltIndex
+	pRange   prolly.Range
+	refCheck bool
 }
 
 var _ sql.Table = (*prollyFkIndexer)(nil)
 var _ sql.IndexedTable = (*prollyFkIndexer)(nil)
+var _ sql.ReferenceChecker = (*prollyFkIndexer)(nil)
 
 // Name implements the interface sql.Table.
 func (n *prollyFkIndexer) Name() string {
@@ -49,6 +51,11 @@ func (n *prollyFkIndexer) Schema() sql.Schema {
 	return n.writer.sqlSch
 }
 
+func (n *prollyFkIndexer) SetReferenceCheck() error {
+	n.refCheck = true
+	return nil
+}
+
 // Collation implements the interface sql.Table.
 func (n *prollyFkIndexer) Collation() sql.CollationID {
 	return sql.CollationID(n.writer.sch.GetCollation())
@@ -84,23 +91,19 @@ func (n *prollyFkIndexer) PartitionRows(ctx *sql.Context, _ sql.Partition) (sql.
 			pkToIdxMap[i] = j
 		}
 	}
-
+	rangeIter, err := idxWriter.IterRange(ctx, n.pRange)
+	if err != nil {
+		return nil, err
+	}
 	if primary, ok := n.writer.primary.(prollyIndexWriter); ok {
-		rangeIter, err := idxWriter.IterRange(ctx, n.pRange)
-		if err != nil {
-			return nil, err
-		}
 		return &prollyFkPkRowIter{
 			rangeIter:  rangeIter,
 			pkToIdxMap: pkToIdxMap,
 			primary:    primary,
 			sqlSch:     n.writer.sqlSch,
+			refCheck:   n.refCheck,
 		}, nil
 	} else {
-		rangeIter, err := idxWriter.IterRange(ctx, n.pRange)
-		if err != nil {
-			return nil, err
-		}
 		return &prollyFkKeylessRowIter{
 			rangeIter: rangeIter,
 			primary:   n.writer.primary.(prollyKeylessWriter),
@@ -115,6 +118,7 @@ type prollyFkPkRowIter struct {
 	pkToIdxMap val.OrdinalMapping
 	primary    prollyIndexWriter
 	sqlSch     sql.Schema
+	refCheck   bool
 }
 
 var _ sql.RowIter = prollyFkPkRowIter{}
@@ -149,6 +153,11 @@ func (iter prollyFkPkRowIter) Next(ctx *sql.Context) (sql.Row, error) {
 			continue // referential integrity broken
 		}
 
+		if iter.refCheck {
+			// no need to deserialize
+			return nil, nil
+		}
+
 		nextRow := make(sql.Row, len(iter.primary.keyMap)+len(iter.primary.valMap))
 		for from := range iter.primary.keyMap {
 			to := iter.primary.keyMap.MapOrdinal(from)