reimplement fix for akka/pekko cluster #817

Job	Run time
Pekko Cluster Metrics Test with Sigar	7m 6s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster/test distributed-data/test cluster-tools/test cluster-metri...	20m 34s
JDK 8 / Scala 2.12.x	58m 22s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster-sharding/test)	26m 34s
JDK 11 / Scala 2.12.x	1h 10m 5s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster-typed/test cluster-sharding-typed/test)	19m 12s
JDK 17 / Scala 2.12.x	55m 39s
JDK 21 / Scala 2.12.x	59m 44s
JDK 8 / Scala 2.13.x	57m 40s
JDK 11 / Scala 2.13.x	1h 8m 27s
JDK 17 / Scala 2.13.x	55m 30s
JDK 21 / Scala 2.13.x	1h 0m 15s
JDK 8 / Scala 3.3.x	57m 39s
JDK 11 / Scala 3.3.x	1h 5m 15s
JDK 17 / Scala 3.3.x	56m 57s
JDK 21 / Scala 3.3.x	58m 32s
	13h 17m 31s

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