adding in fixes from mreeve quality of life fixes branch

[mreeve-snl]

🗣 Description

Hotfix branch to fix installation issues users are running into

💭 Motivation and context

Fixes a few problems:

1. containers take a really long time to start, and this is causing user's to see the project as failing to start
2. issues with post-install script... some users are finding issues where the post install script fails, this branch should fix those issues and make it more robust
3. added longer timeouts to all containers to make sure they're able to come up properly, so users don't run into issues with installation

🧪 Testing

Ran through installation manually on multiple ubuntu 22.04 machines.

✅ Pre-approval checklist

• Changes are limited to a single goal AND
  the title reflects this in a clear human readable format
• Issue that this PR solves has been selected in the Development section
• I have read and agree to LME's CONTRIBUTING.md document.
• The PR adheres to LME's requirements in RELEASES.md
• These code changes follow cisagov code standards.
• All relevant repo and/or project documentation has been updated to reflect the changes in this PR.

✅ Pre-merge Checklist

• All tests pass
• PR has been tested and the documentation for testing is above
• Squash and merge all commits into one PR level commit

✅ Post-merge Checklist

• Delete the branch to keep down number of branches